Banner showing three books

Self-Improvement

Banner - rowersSo you’ve written a novel, or a story, or a comic, and you want to turn that into a career. What do you do now?

First, you need to assess your mental state. Are you strong enough to handle people seeing it? Commenting upon it? Critiquing it?

If not, don’t worry. Fear is a normal reaction. Listen to it, query it, figure out what you’re afraid of. You might need professional help here, or just a good friend that won’t hurt you.

But let’s assume that you have built up a thick skin. You can handle it. What then? (more…)

Banner: Movie clickMaking plans to change, and New Year’s Eve resolutions, is easy. Making them stick, is not.

However, it is simple – once you understand the science behind habit forming. Here’s Kruzgesagt with a wonderful primer on becoming the best you you can be.

Banner: Movie clickVeritasium says it all. The key 3 points of how to make New Year’s resolutions that stick:

  • Keep it small
  • Write it down
  • Adapt your environment, not yourself

See the entire thing here:

  1. Stop making excuses and write.
  2. Stop whining and write.
  3. Stop fucking around and write.
  4. I take my own advice.

Read: Nora Robert’s Here’s How I Work on Facebook

It only takes 4 things to become an expert:

  1. A valid environment
  2. Many repetitions
  3. Timely feedback
  4. Deliberate practice

And I bet that you don’t correctly understand at least one of them… Check out the explanation by Veritasium:

Misty Mountains bannerThis goes into the “inspiring” file: a 99-year-old veteran of the US Marine corps bought his first computer at age 95, and has now published a children’s book.

“Most of us have a bucket list that we never have time to do, until life presents us with spare time, and that is what happened to me.” – 99-year-old first-time author Sam Baker

Read the whole story.

Banner Mouse ClickI don’t usually plug email spam, but this you’ve got to see.

James Clear, writer of Atomic Habits, has a weekly newsletter where he delivers 3 quotes from himself, 2 quotes from others, and 1 inspiring, actionable question.

The quotes are all short, to the point, and, quite frankly, great. The question usually has me thinking about how I can improve my life.

Here are some examples: (more…)

Sometimes the world kicks you.

Sometimes you stumble, slip, fall down. Best intentions are only that, intentions. Sometimes they fail.

The key isn’t to be eternally successful. The key is to be kind to yourself when you fail. Learning to forgive yourself is a skill. Forgiving yourself is a skill, too, but you can’t start with it. You have to start by learning how to learn it.

Forgiveness is tough. We learn to forgive others. We’re taught to do it, forced to do it, but rarely does anyone take us aside and tell us to be kind to ourselves.

Instead, we internalize the critical voices, the ones that tell us what we should do, absolutely must do, least we end up outcasts, alone, hated, bereft. (more…)

Pop psychology is full of pithy seize the day quotes. The purpose of life is to live it, to taste each experience to the utmost. Memento mori. Live like you would die tomorrow.

If I knew I’d die tomorrow, I’d spend the day playing video games, bingeing on chocolates, and wailing that life wasn’t fair.

If I lived this way every day, I’d get obese, depressed, and likely would die tomorrow. (more…)

Banner - LightEgoism. It’s a bad word.

Unfortunately.

Egoism should be neutral. Like any tool, it can be good or bad.

Yes, you can be a self-absorbed, egocentric (note: egocentric isn’t always a bad thing either), self-absorbed, pompous mutt (those are bad words).

But in our society, we live with the strange duality that we’re too egoistic and at the same time, not egoistic enough.

Let me explain. (more…)